Perhaps the greatest thing
ward temple and family history consultants can do to help gather Israel is to
create personalized family history experiences for others. But what exactly is
a personalized family history experience, and how does a consultant go about
creating one?

A personalized family history experience is a simple activity or lesson that helps another person or family feel closer to ancestors and to each other. This is the spirit of Elijah, a manifestation of the Holy Ghost testifying of the divine and eternal nature of families.

Building Blocks of an Experience

A recent class on serving as a ward temple and family history consultant highlighted six key elements or building blocks that consultants can choose from to create a personalized family history experience.

  • Help—answering specific temple and family history questions and needs
  • Discovery—uncovering new and uplifting information about family, ancestors, and homelands
  • Family Tree—sharing, preserving, and building the FamilySearch Family Tree
  • Memories—preserving photos, stories, audio recordings, and other family memories
  • Records—finding, interpreting, and attaching historical records
  • Temple—contributing to the completion of an ancestor’s gospel ordinances
A family looks at photos together.

Of the six building blocks
mentioned here, the discovery and temple building blocks are
foundational—meaning that consultants should try to incorporate these elements whenever
possible. Discovering something new about one’s family or ancestors inevitably
invites the spirit of Elijah into a person’s heart.

Personalized Experiences in the Book of Mormon

Learning about ancestors isn’t
enough. We have a divine responsibility to help, when possible, with their
temple ordinances.

Consider the prophet Lehi in
the Book of Mormon. He had a personalized family history experience when he
searched the brass plates that Nephi and his other sons had obtained from Laban.

A woman prays.

And what was the result of
this search? Almost immediately after receiving the plates, Lehi participated
in a temple service of his day—he built an altar and offered sacrifice. Then he
gathered his family and shared with them what he was learning. He reminded them
of the promises Heavenly Father has in store for those who love and honor Him.

Lehi’s experience demonstrates the profound relationship between temple and family history, as taught by Elder Gary E. Stevenson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles: “The home, the family, and the temple are inseparably connected. . . . Understanding the eternal nature of the temple will draw you to your family; understanding the eternal nature of the family will draw you to the temple.”

Guiding Principles

A few basic principles will
help consultants create more meaningful personalized family history experiences
and bless the lives of the people they serve.

  • The first
    principle is to pray. God knows who
    is prepared for a personalized family history experience. He knows too the
    story, activity, or even photograph that could soften that person’s heart and
    turn him or her to God. Consultants can pray to be led to ancestors waiting for
    their temple ordinances and ask that the person or family they are helping do the
  • The
    second principle is to prepare. Getting
    things ready for a personalized family history experience takes time—time to
    pray, time to plan, and time to talk to the other person or family and find out
    what they are interested in learning about.
  • The third
    principle is to minister. Consultants
    serve people one-on-one, as the Savior did. They meet in homes and in meetinghouses—wherever
    is most convenient. They likewise adapt their teaching methods to the other
    person’s physical or spiritual circumstances.
  • The final
    principle is to invite. Following a
    personalized family history experience, the consultant invites the person to
    build on what he or she has discovered. These invitations are simple and
    achievable. They point towards a particular task that the person can do on his
    or her own or that a family can do together.
A mother and son laugh with a woman, who is holding family photos.

Personalized Experiences Today

Unlike the prophet Lehi,
people today are unlikely to find their personalized family history experience
in a collection of brass plates, although the consequences of the experience
can be very similar! Here are a few examples of what a modern personalized
family history experience might look like:

  • Reading
    stories about ancestors on
  • Using
    online tools to explore a specific homeland—Google Earth, for example, to see
    images of an ancestor’s birthplace.
  • Creating
    an audio recording of family members sharing memories, and then uploading the
    recording to
  • Finding
    the birth or marriage certificate of a particular ancestor and attaching it to
    his or her profile page on
  • Completing
    the necessary tasks on so that an ancestor’s gospel ordinances
    can be reserved and completed.
A girl walks beside the temple holding temple cards.

Experiences such as these will
strengthen families and point them to the temple. But this list is just a short
one. In practice, consultants will need to be creative and observant as they search
for the activity that is just right for the person or family they are helping!

For a more detailed
description of tools and ideas that ward temple and family history consultants
might find helpful, be sure to watch Serving as a Ward Temple and Family History

Source: New on FamilySearch